Friendly: a friendly chat

I had a very nice long chat about business and related subjects with a fellow who does some work for me. Funny, but the first time I ever met him we had a similar long, friendly chat. I hadn’t thought of him as “friend material,” because I tend not to think if anyone as “friend material,” but I’ve been on the lookout for guys who might make good friends and it occurred to me today that he could be such a one.

Anyway, evidence of a friendly universe: people who enjoy meaningful, thoughtful chats.

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Friendly: swimming

Something that I really enjoy and do nearly five days a week in the mornings is swim.  Before sunrise, I bicycle down to the pool at a small college, say hi to my team mates, swim for an hour, come home, and make myself breakfast.  It’s a wonderful way to start each day.

That’s enough.  It helps keep the universe friendly.

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Friendly: curiosity in limited doses

If you’re curious about something, you don’t want to hurt or kill or interfere with it.  You — I — want to observe it as it goes about it’s own business, in its own way, to see what it does.  It’s peaceful and peace-inducing.

I could be talking about a melodic line, a bug, a friend a loved one, a colleague, a celestial phenomenon, a river…  In general I seem to be thinking about things that occur in the natural, physical world but I suppose this could apply to a curiosity about how things work — a computer, a ballpoint pen, hand sanitizer.  In this instance I’m thinking (again) about psychology research scientists and others who are curious about how the mind works.

Passionate curiosity is quite a wonderful thing and fully engages the mind like other adrenaline-fueled pursuits for excitement but with very little downside….  Other than, maybe, that the thinker can maybe get as absorbed in the object of curiosity at the sacrifice of things required to maintain one’s good health; I can imagine curiosity, like creativity and inventiveness, beginning to look like an escape from the demands of life, like so many other things can — dope, skiing, Hiking The Trail, sex, loss of sense of self in a relationship.

I didn’t expect to go down this thought path.  Perhaps like so many things, curiosity can begin as a purely good impulse, like sex and other things that are enthralling, but can lead a person on a path that at some point begins to have pain associated with it.

It’s a funny thing to think about.  Because curiosity could be entirely innocent and observational, but, depending on the mind that is curious, it could also lead to very troubling ends.  “What happens when I feed this mouse?” could lead to “what happens when I torture this mouse?”  “What happens when I show love to this person?” could lead to “What happens when I withhold love from this person?”  Ouch.

Well, initially, I thought the existence of creativity is evidence of a friendly universe.  And I’m going to stick with that for the moment.  However, I’m also noting how my mind, inclined somewhat to be worried about how things can go wrong, is contemplating how a quality like curiosity can go badly, instead of luxuriating in all the wonderful things that curious minds have brought about.

Evidence of a friendly universe: curiosity.  Up to a point.  (Are limits evidence of a friendly universe?)

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Friendly: making music with friends

On Sunday, I had a rehearsal with this contradance band I play with.  It was so much fun.  Everyone was nice and authentic and I enjoy group experiences like this where there’s an atmosphere of cooperation, with all of us working towards the same end result — fun dance music.

There are other things in the world that are fun.  But I don’t think there’s anything else that is this much where you aren’t also wondering — at the same time, or beforehand, or afterwards — if you’re either going to die, or get hurt, or get your heart broken.  Even better, there’s no alcohol or drugs, so you know you’re dealing with people as their plain, real selves.

Evidence of a friendly universe: making friends by making music.

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