Friendly: hopefullness

I’m having a rough day.

However, late last night an idea came to me for an important change I can make in my life that could lead to greater fulfillment in my work.  While I’m not going to reveal what it is, I was pleased to be able to consider and then immediately research some exciting opportunities.

In the last five or ten years, I read an article in the New York Times about how humans are biologically “programmed” to be optimistic.  We believe that there is always something better ahead. This keeps us moving forward. If we were to become satisfied with what we currently had — a full stomach, say — we would be unlikely to expend energy looking for the food we would need tomorrow.

I wonder if penguins, and other animals, feel the same, that they are never satisfied.

Evidence of a friendly universe: a brighter tomorrow.

Friendly: doctors willing to take hard cases

I spoke with an ophthalmologist this morning who was proudly telling me about cataract surgery he performed yesterday on a 103-year old woman.  He said he was the only eye doctor the family could find who was willing to work on her.  But then it took about three years for her to be cleared for surgery by the other medical doctors, such as the pulmonologist.

He was visibly thrilled at how well the surgery went and how his expertise and long career enabled him to perform the surgery successfully.

Evidence of a friendly universe: that feeling of pride we get when we do something good.  And, the existence of that lone person out there who is willing to take on a hard case, even if it takes a long time to find them.

Friendly: a special someone

My girlfriend cares deeply about the people in her life — me, her kids, her friends.  It is fortunate to live in an environment where such caring exists because it’s deeply helpful to have a partner on the journey of life.

Evidence of a friendly universe: a person who wants to make the journey with you.

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Friendly: nice dentist

I went to the dentist this morning. Actually, I went to the dentist last month too, for an emergency visit due to tooth pain. Both experiences were fine. But this morning’s experience was enjoyable. Rarely do you hear that about visits to the dentist’s office.

Before last month’s visit, I hadn’t been to the dentist for a couple years. That’s remarkable, because I’ve gotten a dental check-up every six months since I was a child. However, several years ago, I lost the health insurance that covered my dentist. I’d pay cash for dental visits, but that was expensive. Then, a couple years ago, I got new health insurance thanks to the Affordable Care Act (a.k.a. “Obama Care”) but my prior dentist, of 25 years, didn’t participate in the new plan. So, I needed to find a new dentist. That felt like an onerous task with only a poor outcome: when I looked through the listings, all the dentists were in down-market neighborhoods or had foreign-sounding names. I realize that reveals a bias and, honestly, I’m ashamed of that. However, I have it.

Eventually I found a dentist in a decent neighborhood with a name I could confidently pronounce and, last month, I went for an emergency visit. I wasn’t impressed (I thought he looked unhealthy) but he resolved the problem and quite quickly at that. Basically, it was a positive experience and I made an appointment for today, with a different dentist in the same office for a cleaning. I liked this dentist. So, I feel like I’ve finally found a new dentist.

Having a positive experience with a healthcare provider, one that I didn’t need to pay a fortune to visit, that’s basically just a good life experience.

Satisfactory healthcare should be a fundamental aspect of a wealthy society, but that it exists at all, and that progress in the medical profession is such that, incrementally, over time, decent care becomes available at low cost — I fear my bar is too low, but this is evidence of a friendly universe.

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Friendly: luthiers

I had a pleasant talk yesterday with a luthier — a person who builds and repairs string instruments.  He was a very down-to-earth guy who seemed quite pleased to make my mandolin play a bit better for me.  A world where a person wants to dedicate themselves to working on musicians’ most important tools — because surely it’s not for the money — that’s a friendly place, at least for me.

Here’s a shout-out to Retrofret Guitars (vintage and rare string instruments).  Probably the most exciting acoustic guitar/mandolin/ukulele shop I’ve ever walked into.  Just as exciting as that first time I walked into Manny’s Music, now closed, on 48th street in New York City, some 35 years ago.

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